By the end of this meeting the student will be able to describe strategies of effective communication for particularly difficult social situations.
Potential Pre-Meeting Opportunity
Take this online test to help understand how you typically behave during a conflict.
Be ready to talk about your results, including:
- Do you think the results are accurate? Is there another style you feel you align with more closely?
- What was a time in your life when you responded to a conflict in this way?
- Why might your results be a strength? Why might they be a weakness?
Introduction
Share reflections about the prework. Think about a situation in your life when you responded to a conflict in this way.
- How did things go?
- Why is the conflict style sometimes an advantage?
- When might it be a disadvantage?
A Framework for Difficult Conversations
- The "What Happened" Conversation
- Each of us sees the world differently. It is important to start with that the story is from both perspectives.
- Difficult conversations are rarely about the facts, but more about the perception of what happened.
- The "Feelings" Conversation
- Difficult conversations are always about feelings, so it's important to talk about these, though it can be hard.
- First, take the time to understand how you are feeling before having a conversation.
- During the conversation, acknowledge feelings before moving on to problem-solving.
- The "Identity" Conversation
- This conversation starts with self-reflection. As yourself, what am I saying to myself about me?
- With all difficult conversations, something about the situation reflects a piece of your identity.
Reflection
Reflect on today’s meeting. Are there any lingering questions?
Remember, not all difficult conversations will end perfectly, and if conflicts arise that you can’t find a solution to, there are many people who can help at school. Who are some of these people?